Grief, loss and death

Connections beyond self are beautiful experiences but also very sad when lost…

One of the most challenging experiences a person can encounter is the loss of something they love; whether that be a person, an animal or an object. And what a person loves and what the nature of the loss is has many different possibilities as to what that can be – there is no right or wrong in this regard. Also loss does not always equate to the death of something, and can include something leaving your life – like the end of a personal relationship. So grief can be felt over the loss over many different things.

For this discussion, let’s look at one experience where grief will be felt by nearly every person on their journey through life, and that is when a living being they love passes on from this world (within this discussion is everything needed to understand all types of grief). How deep this grief travels is dependent on how deep the attachment to that person/animal was,  how real and united the connection was, how unexpected the loss was, and how much the person resists the fact that this loss has taken place.

This kind of loss also confronts a persons own mortality, and puts them in an unsolvable situation that can send the mind on a spiral towards absolute misery and self destruction. Not to demean the experience in any way whatsoever, but the pathway to grief is the same as all psychological disorders, and they can all be traced back to a moment when a person resists something in their mind and starts to see it as a problem that needs solving…and grief is no different in this particular regard.

However, grief does have a special quality to it, and it therefore has a life of its own once this place in the mind has been created, so in this regard it is unique…and there are reasons for this. It could quite possibly be one of the saddest experiences that a person will ever have. It cuts into the fabric of all human fear so deeply that it feels justified that it is that way – more so than many of the other things we can develop psychological stress over.

It is also important to recognise that the feeling of grief, like all emotions, needs to be faced and embraced and cannot be avoided. For to avoid this experience is paramount to guaranteed self destruction. Grief occurs within an isolated and small construct of thought, like all painful experiences, however, grief is too enormous for a person to stay in such a confined space for too long, hence the potential danger of this huge feeling that is being experienced. In a state of grief the nature of every thought in that construct is loaded with powerful life challenging concepts that are emotionally charged, and if not understood they become guardians at the outer perimeter of the space that person is within. These thoughts will try to defy any attempts a person makes to leave this space, and also defy any attempts for an outsider to enter this space.

The reason it is made this way is because the experience of grief is so personal and particular to the one person – it is therefore almost impossible to share it with another person, and to feel understood whilst in this isolated space. The sensation is that nobody understands – and in many ways this is true. How could they? It is in reality as personal as it feels and therefore that is not a delusional thought. However, no matter how real this feeling is, it is essential to keep the journey of life expansion active at the same time, and this can be done. But first a person must stop problem solving to allow this enormous, rich and heart felt experience to be set free outside of the protective cage of thought that it has become encased in.

If L.E.T. is embraced into a persons life prior to such life impacting loss, it is possible to feel this enormous emotion without it shrinking that persons reality. In fact the complete opposite can occur, whereby a person can use this enormous energy of emotion to blast into the outer reaches of the experience we call life, and find a sense of being and truth never thought possible. So how grief is dealt with is crucial as it can create complete destruction of ones existence, or it can be a rich and beautiful journey, whereby the person feels like they are still alive within you and that they are traveling into life with every thought you have – and this is without obsessing on their existence, but rather just feeling them with peaceful awareness. Then every-time the traditional feeling of getting lost in the memory of the departed person occurs, one can quickly transform this into a creative experience where the loved one continues to grow with the person in grief.

The crippling depression felt in a grief state can only happen when the event is so shocking to a persons mind, that they literally get thrown of their journey through time, and they get stuck in the moment of that persons/animals death – of course in this space a persons soul will perish as no new life is being injected into their existence, so it becomes increasingly difficult to ‘breath’.

So to breath again L.E.T. will aid a person to expand once again and actually enrich the experience of the person/pet they so desperately miss, rather than letting the memory of them destroy them. To not grieve can feel almost disrespectful to the experience, so let it be clear that it is not being suggested that one should not grieve. However, if a person grieves in an expansive space they can do honor to the persons life who has left this world, and therefore all they were and all they meant becomes an inspiration, not an emotional and spiritual death sentence. The person that passes in effect may have left physically, but they are alive spiritually within the person that loved them so much – and what better place to be than there.

To have a private chat with David about this extremely sensitive topic, then please make contact to allow this sad journey to expand into something beautiful.

Painting by Debbie Miller…

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